Cancers and difficulty in forgetting the past ...

So cancers get a really bad rap about not being able to forget the past ...

My moon sign is cancer too and i have heard this multiple times ... so i've thought about it and i wish to share my views on this issue in this article ...

... let us try to take a deeper look why cancers seem to keep bringing the past !

Well there is a difference between holding a grudge and taking a revenge or just trying to advice other person to fix their flaws and behaviour ... ( so that the flaws doesn't damage the relationship)

With most cancers i guess :) ... we never keep a grudge on other people and we dont believe in revenge ... we are quite forgiving in that aspect ...

Even if you have hurt us really badly in the past but if you genuinely feel sorry we will forgive and forget about it the very moment ... we will laugh with you and be friends with you like what happened in the past never really happened ... !

So in that regard we truly do indeed are willing to forget the past and move on ... give other people a chance ... but often we see that the realization or simply the understanding and awareness of how your words/ actions are hurting never really comes from the other person ... very rarely it at all ...

This quality of forgiving others is truly remarkable about cancers ... because even the proponents of "Forgetting the past" advice  ... most notably ... the sagittarius and aquarius ... they themselves ... i have seen them to KEEP GRUDGES for very long time ...

THEY are the ones who don't really actually never forgive the other person and move on with their lives ... even when the other person has apologized ...

REMEMBER ... forgetting the past is about forgiving the other person ... and cancers are actually one of the most forgiving people ...  more than aquarius and Judgemental Sagittarius ...  !!

If your Cancer Friend or Family member is trying to bring the past ... be aware that ...

We simply want the other person to be AWARE of how much painful their words / actions can be so that they can correct it ... so the relationship is not damaged ... due to such behaviour ...

... and that is all that is really needed to fix the problem ...

So cancers are often left with the situation where we are either forced to forgive the person even when they never said sorry for hurting us (really badly) ... or simply keep our mouth shut and say nothing about the brutality ...

We can ignore ... small issues which havent caused a lot of pain ... but for some issues ... which were very painful ... it is very difficult to just ignore it and accept it and let things just be the way they are !!!

Let us try to understand this issue with an Example :

If a rapist gives advice to a women who he raped to simply just forget the past and move on with life ... is that a sane thing to do ... (especially for a rapist)

A rapist should instead apologize and show some regret for his behaviour ... and say sorry ! ... and we all understand that its not difficult for a women who had been through rape ... to forget about the RAPE very easily ...

Surely forgetting the past (the rape) is a good thing ... but its going to take time to heal and get better ...

Rape is an emotionally hurting and ... you cant just forget about it and move on ... so quickly and easily ...

So with cancers its like this most of the time ... we get raped emotionally by someone and then also get to hear the advice (from the rapist) about why cant we just forget about the past (emotional rape) and move on with our lives ...

Cancers are quite sensitive ... and you can EMOTIONALLY RAPE a cancer quite easily if you have immature beliefs and thinking ... which most people do have ...

This is the reason ... when cancers become adults ... we don't really make friendship with someone unless we know the other person and have some assurance about their behaviour and maturity ...